When you were starting out , you were making more than your wife but somewhere along the way, your wife zoomed faster than you while you still remained at the basement level or on the ground floor only .
There comes a watershed in your life when you have no choice and have to decide one of you will have to quit to look after the children. Who will that be?
Naturally , the one who earns less will have to give up the job and stay at home to look after the kids.Will you take up the challenge and let your wife be the breadwinner?
Will you quit your job and look after your kids with the consent of your wife ? Not only just looking after the kids , you will be doing a role reversal with your wife.That means essentially you will become a househusband while your wife becomes the breadwinner.
According to a recent survey by careeerbuilder.com ,37% of the working men would quit their jobs to be with their kids. If given a choice , another 38% of the working men would take a pay cut to spend more time with the kids.
Times have changed and the perceptions that men should take a more proactive role in their child's welfare and upbringing is making many men to quit their jobs, if their wife makes enough to support the family.
Men today don't feel the shame or 'lose face' while their wife supports them.There is no more stigma in this arrangements.
Women have always stepped up when men were having hard times.Today, because of the job recession, men are having a hard time again, and many wives are making more than their husbands.
This is a blow to the male ego in many cases, as well as pushing the woman into a role she sometimes never thought she'd have to take.
This is for the husbands -- how to cope when your wife makes more than you.
1. Step 1: Don't stop looking for employment.
When your wife makes more than you, it should adrenalize you to show your wife that you can take care of her. Be happy you have such a resourceful woman, that you can lean on in tough times, but don't ever lose your place as the breadwinner.
Scan the classifieds every day. And not the newspaper; that's old. Use the internet, please.
2. Step 2: Get up every morning like you already have a job.
The most disheartening thing you can do to your family when your wife makes more than you is to get up, not shave or shower, let your beer gut go, and put on dirty clothes and mope around all day.
Get up every day and look for a job. Even if you have to take your laptop to Starbucks to stay vigilant, do so. Do not let your wife and kids see you sweat. They will get scared and respect you less.
3. Step 3 If you accept a position below your station, keep looking for higher positions.
You just need to get back to work when your wife makes more than you. So you might have to accept a position below your station, and go to school online to increase your skill set. If you take a job below your station, the rest of your time should be spent increasing your skill set.
4. Step 4: Deal with her frustration like you do any other time she yells at you.
Perhaps the toughest thing to take when your wife makes more than you is the snide sideways comments and looks that women sometimes give. It's frustration, plain and simple, but that's natural. She still loves you, but like every other interaction with your wife, your reaction to her stimulus is much more important than her stimulus. Consider it a test. You pass by keeping it together and staying vigilant. Good luck.
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